I told him not continue the marriage

I'm so stressed, napakasensitive ko sa mga bagay bagay. Konting salita lang na ang dating sa akin ay hindi maganda, naiinis na ako, hindi na ako umiimik Hanggang sa magaway na kami. It's all my fault napakaKJ ko. Kahit normal lang na words nagiging big deal sa akin. Ako ang naguumpisa ng hindi namin pagkikibuan. Ako ang naguumpisa ng away. LDR kami may mga bagay na gusto niya pagusapan like sexual fantasy. Hindi ako sanay sa mga ganyan, sumasakay ako sa una but nageend ng bad conversation kasi hindi maganda para sa akin. Kahit sabihin niya na fantasy lang not real, nagiging bad mood agad ako . May mga bagay na hilig niya na hindi ko hilig like metal music, video games hindi ko naman kasi nakahiligan un. He's trying to talk about it showing those games I'm listening but can't relate. And he thinks I'm not interested. Fast forward one day there's one thing na naging bad mood na naman ako we didn't talk for days we still texting but cold. And then we say things he told me everything our difference. All those simple things that makes me upset so easily. Can't even have deeper conversation. I said sorry, he said not to say sorry it's not my fault. It's not about me. It's the character, the compatible. I asked him is it still worth it to live together?, are we gonna be a happy family? He said i don't know. I told him let's not get married. I'm a mess i don't want him to regret in the end. We're expecting a baby this coming Dec. I'm so stress, I'm so weak, I'm experiencing insomnia. What should i do? Is it enough that u love each other?

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Ito masasabi ko ,kami ng hubby ko 10yrs bago kinasal at total oposite kami sa lahat ng bagay. Daming nagtatanong abkit kami tumagal? Ang sagot dyan, We're comitted to each other. We always choose each other kahit mdmi kami hnd pinagkakasunduan. Ang key is open communication. sa 10yrs namin hnd kami nag break, hnd kami natutulog ng magkaaway. Kapag nsa barko sya hnd kami nag aaway kasi ayoko dumagdag pa sa hirap na dinadanas nya. Sa relasyon hnd naman palagi love, Pero sa totoo lang never kami nag sawa sa isat isa or nafeel na mabored We always give and take. Hnd kasi pwd na iisa lang ang dapat nasusunod dapat pero kayo may understanding. Ang hirap kasi sa mga relasyon ngayon akala nila laging perfect, nawawala na ung patience naten kapag tumatagal which is hnd dapat. Oo meron tyong linag daraanan sa buhay pero kaya nga kayo magkasama eh pra sa hirap at ginhawa. ngayon may anak kami, Pinagtatawanan nalang namin ung mga bagay bagay, Like me mahilig sa kpop sya mhilig sa mga memes videos na hnd ko nagegets pero mag aasaran lang kami. ang payo ko, Hnd porket buntis tayo eh entitled tyo palagi na tayo ang intindihin, Ikaw isipin mo if want nyo ng buong pamilya pra sa anak nyo or not. If hnd nyo na maayoa tlaga then better na mag coparenting kayo 2.

gaano na kayo katagal?and anong age nyo na? minsan nsa tagal din ng pagsasama at age ng couple yang misunderstanding e. Better wala munang marriage, kesa sa ibang nagpakasal pero in the end gusto mag hiwalay pero hindi pwede kase kasal sila alam naman natin mahal magpakasal pero mas mahal mg pa divorce plus kung mgdidivorce din in the end yung emotional damage na maibibigay sa magiging anak nyo isipin nyo din. Madame naman couple ang nagsasama ng hindi kasal. Better kilalanin muna ang isat isa..parang aubrey miles and troy montero db matagal na nagsasama pero neto lang nagpakasal. I can relate don sa mga gusto ni hubby na ayaw mo at naiinis ka, before e gnyan din ako.. sobrang opposite kase kme sa lahat ng bagay pero in the end natutunan nyang magustuhan ang trip ko at the same time ako din. Kapag ayaw ng isa, need intindihin,hindi need ng away. Give and take kumbaga. Bago kame magpakasal mula 2012 (mgjowa kame) magkasama na kame sa bahay 2019 lang kame ngapakasal.. Super adjusted na kme alam na namen ang ayaw ng isat isa. Wag magpakasal kung di sigurado Pareho lang kayong kawawa sa huli.

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We're on the same page, my soon to be hubby we're not compatible too. He likes games, and he's 6yrs younger than me, too many to mention ng mga things na hindi kami compatible. I'm pregnant din. 3rd trimester na. We tried to communicate well to each other kahit na minsan di ko alam yung kinukwento niya nakikinig ako, ganon din siya pag nag kkwento ako sa mga bagay na alam kong hindi niya forte, I know pregnant medyo sensitive, hormones ganyan. But we have to reach out din, nag rereach out siya, while on the other hand hindi ka nag papa reach out. Relationships and marriage is a two way. Kumbaga it takes two to tango lalo na you're starting to build your own family.

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Hi. First of all, don't gaslight yourself, own your feelings. It's not your fault and hindi ka KJ if hindi mo trip ang trip ng bf/fiancé mo. It's normal, there will always be similarities and differences between couples. Communication is always the key to everything, and it's always two ways. Both of you should be able to talk and listen to each other. Identify the problem and find a solution. Communicate the compromises you two can make to each other and set the limitations/boundaries. But if the problem is very big that'll surely affect your marriage then do what you want, don't proceed with the wedding.

Thank you for your answer

Maybe its just because preggy ka kaya moody ka, dont expect na lahat ng hilig nya aay magiging hilig mo din. May mga couple naman na compatible eventhough they have differences. Communicatio is the key para magtagal ang relationship. Samahan nyo pa ng understanding para mag stay long ang relationships nyo. Think many times before ka mag bitaw ng decisions that could ruin your relationship. Wag sana mawala ang love sa inyo since your expecting your little one. Maybe pag lumabas na si LO mabago ang situations. Keep praying po for your future mi.

Baka rin kasi iba kayo nang needs, body at love language. Kaya medyo hindi kayo nagmemeet in the middle. Best thing is to talk. Communication is the key para magka intindihan kayo. I think your partner is trying his best naman na mag reach out sayo. Subukan mo naman mag open up sa mga gusto mo. Baka doon may common ground kayo. Huwag muna papakasal kasi hindi solusyon ang marriage sa kahit ano mang relationship issue.

we only know half of the story. maybe need you ng indepth marriage counseling to understand each other and if you both are willing to accepts indifferences. Or maybe merong underlying trauma/character issues na nagresurface lang sa ibang bagay or trigger points. or maybe hormonal changes. we only know half of the story.

Kung ako naman Ang nasa sitwasyon na GANYAN..Wag muna ako magpapakasal kasi ngayon plang na hindi kayo kasal GANYAN na kayo what if pag kasal na kayo at mas Malala pa..Hindi nman sagot Ang kasal sa lahat ng pinagdadaanan ng isang relasyon ei

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