I'm not in a very good terms with my mom since young age (6yo onwards?) things get slightly better when I grew up (17yo onwards) n start t support myself financially and I think she realise the mistakes she made and hope for a better relationship. She's a very dedicated mom do all housework, cook for everyone, even lend me a few thousands to Pay my ($30k) Uni fees while I need t juggle my wedding n New Bto expenses. Now that I'm preggy, n I quit my job. Only my hub (not earning a lot) is supporting me. We decided not to hire any Confinement lady and ask my mom for help. She's willing to help. She's definitely experienced and know how to cook confinement food. However she stays in the west and I'm staying in north west. I know it's only right to allow her to sleep over thruout the confinement period rather than making her travel Everyday. 1) I'm worried we would clash again if she stay over. We have different views on confinement rules and the way t take care of babies. 2) my hub is not really comfortable having someone else in e house overnight. If you were me, what will u do?

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Hi why don't you ask your mom for her preference first? If she stays over at night is she expected to take care of baby at night too? Sometimes they will want to have a break by being away so maybe she actually won't mind travelling to and fro. Or it could be flexible arrangement , she wanna stay then stay, don't want then go home. She may want to return to her house to check on things or other family members too. I think have a chat with her and husband too. The husband should be more accomodating Coz after all this is your mom who is taking care of you. It is only one month. And frankly clash or not won't depend on staying overnight. It depends on communication and compromising.

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9y ago

Ya I was thinking morning she will be busy with all the cooking and showering of my kid.. I want to rest in the day so I'll give in to all her requests in the day. I jus hope that during night time she will give in to me. Ok thanks all! I shall see how!