I'm having this problem. I correct my MIL on the way she is handling my LO but she does not want to listen. Things like letting my LO stand up while in a moving car. This is very dangerous and she don't get it. Anyone encounter the same problem?

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My MIL gets offended easily and correcting her or 'educating' her on how to manage and handle Infants was offensive to her, because she single handedly brought up 2 kids so she knows better. To my amazement, she seems to be able to read what my LO wants and need by his cries during his first few weeks after we came home from hospital. Nothing but force feeding. Everytime he cry, she will say he must be hungry. She also say that my child will be limping for the rest of his life because the PD said his hip was unstable at birth due to being a breech baby which was later cfm that he is perfectly healthy after an expensive scan when he was 2 months old. She also said that he will forever be having bad stomach issue for the rest of his life because his tummy was gassy. Nothing I tell her will sound logic to her. So much so that she wanted me to move out because I can't agree with her over my LO. These issues were brought up to hubby to speak to her but she always have new things to say.

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6y ago

I'm sorry but I laughed when I saw your reply. you mil can go work as a fortune teller alr. lol. everything also forever. 😅

Yes I think this is quite a common problem that dil face with mil. Somehow mil likes to do things their way despite us telling them it's not good or its dangerous for LO. Best is to get your hb to speak with her because in many cases in their eyes dil is always wrong. If it's something you feel that will compromise your child's safety (eg, letting lo stand up while car is moving) maybe you can ask her to sit at the front passenger seat and buckle your lo behind in a car seat. That way she can't carry your lo.

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6y ago

My LO is only 4+ mths thats why she need to be with an adult. She keeps feeding my LO. I gave her sufficient breastmilk for a week and a new tin of formula. A week later, the formula and breastmilk finish. She keeps want to compare and says if you want your baby to be healthy, then eat more. This is crazy to me.

Same here. And worse my mil will pretend she understands and listen but she will do the exact opposite! Tell your husband to talk to her? It will be easier to get through to her. For some reason I feel mil like to show that they are more capable than us in taking care of babies So us telling them not to do something they will not listen.

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6y ago

Exactly! Even my hub told her she will agree but in the end, still back to her way.

Oh dear, i do not have a mother in law but i guess it must be really difficult to handle. Well, does having heart to heart talks help with the relationship with mil?