I am a working mother that works full time. As a first time mom, I have a lot of things that I wished I could do for my kid such as cooking, having a nice room for my kid etc. but I have a MIL who loves to do things for my kid. She would say things like “I want to cook this for baby”, “I want to do this for baby”, totally undermining me as the baby’s mother. I feel rather offended tbh.
And the most ridiculous thing is she will bring my kid out without telling me. I often hear about it during meal time that she said “oh that day baby did this when we were out”. I was like oh you brought baby out without telling me?
I also feel very sad when I heard her talking about my baby’s first. Examples are when I first saw my kid walk, I was so happy and took a video and send to her. She will simply reply, oh baby done that some day ago. You know that kind of feeling? Where something so special to you just seem so normal to others and she could’ve told me that baby took the first step right. It’s not just this but almost all the firsts.
I sometimes really regret of not sending my kid to infant care. Well I could have the chance but she pleaded with you saying that she didn’t have the chance to care for her kids, so could we give her the chance to take care of a baby. In my heart, I was like “you had your chance, why come and rob my chance away.” Even when I’m around, they will also try to snatch baby from me.
Idk but sometimes during the night I will cry cause I feel like I’m such a bad mom cause I can’t spend much time with my kid. Is this normal or am I just asking for too much?