How your husband support you during your first time pregnancy

I am week 12 pregnant and first time pregnant. The thing is my partner and i are not married yet so after finding out I am pregnant we decide to get married. Our families and friends also didn't know I am pregnant as we decide to wait for the NIPT test to be out before announcing. But I feel that although marriage is in plan but throughout these few weeks, I didn't get any support from my partner. We decided to keep the baby as after our discussion we decide to start a family and move on to the next phase of life. We are in our forties. But as weeks passed since knowing I am pregnant I feel I am not getting any support from my partner, we lived separately still. He is just not proactive and alot of things like marriage stuff, I am the one finding and I just feel jaded and no motivation anymore to do anything about it. I feel abit regretful in keeping the baby as I have no family, friends to discuss my situation and my partner is just non-chalant about alot things. His talks are louder than his actions I feel. He is still living his single life. I have no confident in him being a husband and father now. I express my concerns to him before but after awhile back to square one. I feel so loss now as I don't know what to do now with a baby in me. Anyone has similar situation as me?

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hi mummy, I'm a ftm here and my husband's god bro also a ftf just a few months before us. when we first found out I'm pregnant, my husband didn't react much also even though we were actively trying. when we met his god bro at around week 7, that was when he asked his god bro when will the realisation sets in that he's a dad. the god bro say when u see the baby more clearly on the ultrasound perhaps. that's when I realise maybe for guys it doesn't dawn on them as fast as us mums. I've read online some dad's only started acting like "dads" when they can feel and see the kicks on our tummy. maybe give him a couple more weeks and then perhaps we will start seeing them act differently? if it really affects u, perhaps sit down with him and let him know how you're feeling and give him some specific examples of how you would like him to show some care towards you?

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