How your husband support you during your first time pregnancy

I am week 12 pregnant and first time pregnant. The thing is my partner and i are not married yet so after finding out I am pregnant we decide to get married. Our families and friends also didn't know I am pregnant as we decide to wait for the NIPT test to be out before announcing. But I feel that although marriage is in plan but throughout these few weeks, I didn't get any support from my partner. We decided to keep the baby as after our discussion we decide to start a family and move on to the next phase of life. We are in our forties. But as weeks passed since knowing I am pregnant I feel I am not getting any support from my partner, we lived separately still. He is just not proactive and alot of things like marriage stuff, I am the one finding and I just feel jaded and no motivation anymore to do anything about it. I feel abit regretful in keeping the baby as I have no family, friends to discuss my situation and my partner is just non-chalant about alot things. His talks are louder than his actions I feel. He is still living his single life. I have no confident in him being a husband and father now. I express my concerns to him before but after awhile back to square one. I feel so loss now as I don't know what to do now with a baby in me. Anyone has similar situation as me?

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Hi mummy, firstly congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m sorry to hear the above but sometimes it’s normal for guys to not feel involved before baby is out. We tend to feel more because we are the ones carrying the baby. My husband also went ahead with his daily stuffs, playing mobile games, basketballs while I was pregnant. I sourced for baby items and prepared the stuffs myself. The first time baby kicked, he was like ‘wow’ then subsequently as baby grow, kicks get harder but he don’t seem overwhelmed anymore. When baby is out, his fatherly instinct naturally showed. So maybe he is like my husband? Also to add on, when baby is out, your world will revolve around your baby and you probably won’t be so bothered by your husband. Please don’t feel that keeping the baby is a mistake, it is definitely a blessing 🥰 Please trust yourself that all mummies are strong ☺️

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