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I was busy preparing for dinner in the kitchen for the whole family when my baby cried. The baby was not crying continuously. My husband was in the living room playing game on his handphone. His father came by and said twice very loudly :"wah, noone cares for you ah." I heard already very upset. I am busy and not shaking my legs doing nothing. What does he meant by noone cares for my baby? This is not the first time he said such thing. Usually I close my ears and ignore him but am afraid one day I cannot take it and will tell him off. I am also angry with my husband for not doing what he should, giving other people a chance to shoot us.And if my fil wants to say, shouldnt he shoot his son instead?

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No point to argue. Argue = Everyone upset, angry & Face Black. Don't Argue = Give everyone face & preserve everyone's dignity & avoid stepping on the Elderly BIG Ego (Respect in another way). The old folks think they know everything in the world because of their Age, just ignore their rant=) Talk to your hubby nicely about helping out when you cook dinner. Remember - Harmony is the most important thing in a family. If all else still fail, stop cooking & take care of Baby but still smile & polite with everyone. Use hard & Soft methods haha - you don't lose anything👍

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6y ago

Your FIL may not be directing that at you. He could be also hinting your husband also haha. Remember - Stay tactical (hard & Soft tactics).