I think that my husband find his work more important than us ? even our lo birthday he also want to work instead of accompanying us..

Is he the bread winner? because husband whom are workaholic because they worried about the future no money. If I'm his friend I would tell him not work so hard when divorce. his contribution to the family as a workaholic hold very little weight in court. He will lose custody of child, have to pay alimony and child support. With the above said, I think he is a good husband working hard for the financial needs of his family. If you wish to lighten his burden, maybe you can consider working full time and he doesn't need to feel so stress for money.