I stay with my parents in law and send my child (2.5 yes old) to childcare centre recently. My mil became unhappy with me as she couldn't bear to see my girl go to school at such young age. The reason why I sent my girl to cc was because I couldn't stand the way she look after my girl. She would feed my girl with lots of tidbits and cold drinks (no control), let her scream and shout at home, no manners and watch iPad throughout the day. She does all those because it was the easy way out for her and she said that she's so old already still got no freedom, everyday need to help look after the kid and she can't go walk walk in shooing centres. Nothing seems to satisfy her. As my girl's cc closes at 7pm, I asked my mil to help pick up my girl close to 7pm so that they can have some free time on their own. But she went to pick up my girl daily at 3pm! And complained that she is very tired looking after her when I am at work. I raised the option of quitting my job to look after my girl, yet she disallowed as well, saying that she already has a maid at home to do chores, I will just become a tai tai if I quit my job. Basically she rejects all the solutions that we could think of. But first and foremost, she was the one who created this problem! She just wants to create a problem and ask people for solution, yet when solution is given to her, she doesn't want to accept. Is this evil mil or what?

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Hi, could understand your frustrations especially the ones on "illegal" foods. To the elders, this is love, this is doting without cares for the consequences. Evil, she's not, I reckoned she's more ignorant. Since it is in-law, please get your spouse to talk to her else more unhappiness will occur. To them, other than their own offspring doing the talking, the rest are redundant. Alternative solution is to inform the teachers not to allow early pickups or only you or your hubby is allowed to pick up your child. Bad habits and manners are hard to tame and they grow like wildfire. I once came across a post on facebook that the mummy mentioned to her in law that she has no intention for her child to be thrown into jail then only to regret. You can tell your in-law not to wait for your child to suffer from sickness then regret the sinful foods. All will be too late. Whose fault will it be? I heart for you and your frustrations.

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