I stay with my parents in law and send my child (2.5 yes old) to childcare centre recently. My mil became unhappy with me as she couldn't bear to see my girl go to school at such young age. The reason why I sent my girl to cc was because I couldn't stand the way she look after my girl. She would feed my girl with lots of tidbits and cold drinks (no control), let her scream and shout at home, no manners and watch iPad throughout the day. She does all those because it was the easy way out for her and she said that she's so old already still got no freedom, everyday need to help look after the kid and she can't go walk walk in shooing centres. Nothing seems to satisfy her. As my girl's cc closes at 7pm, I asked my mil to help pick up my girl close to 7pm so that they can have some free time on their own. But she went to pick up my girl daily at 3pm! And complained that she is very tired looking after her when I am at work. I raised the option of quitting my job to look after my girl, yet she disallowed as well, saying that she already has a maid at home to do chores, I will just become a tai tai if I quit my job. Basically she rejects all the solutions that we could think of. But first and foremost, she was the one who created this problem! She just wants to create a problem and ask people for solution, yet when solution is given to her, she doesn't want to accept. Is this evil mil or what?

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Does your spouse communicate with his Mother? She probably wants somebody's attention. I sent my kid at a young age to CC too and I do not live with my in-laws. MIL used to care for my kid and she wasn't happy with me sending to CC. Likewise, my kid would be eating chocolate donuts and watching TV all day long. She would let herself into my house, wait for me to come back and scream and shout at me to demand for her grandkid. Hubby isn't home most of the time. I just ignore her. Over time, I let her fetch my kid from CC. It was suppose to be 5pm. But, she fetches at 2 or 3pm. And, bring donuts, cakes etc. What can I do? Only feel blessed that there is someone who loves my kid so much but in her own way. I even try to suggest things to bring when fetching my kid like fresh milk or yakult. Occasionally, I close one eye. My in-laws are retired, they used to sit near the CC the whole day to glimpse at their grandkid until the teachers complain and told them to stay away because whenever my kid cries upon seeing them and thus interrupting the class. I regain my sanity by working full-time and let nature take its course. As long as child is well taken care of. What more can I ask? Same situation when my kid started student care. Except, I have another child now, so their attention is focused on the new one. Take life with a pinch of salt.

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Home Random Talk i stay with parents in law send child 25 yes old childcare centre recently mil became unhappy with couldnt bear see girl go school such young age reason why i sent girl cc was because i couldnt stand way look after girl feed girl with lots tidbits cold drinks control let scream shout home manners watch ipad throughout day does those because was easy way out said that old already still got freedom everyday need help look after kid t go