I feel you about the “alive without sex”. But do find an avenue to release these anguish you have because it can get worst with baby’s arrival. Remember, your husband needs you, all his emotional and physical needs has to come from you and at least he was honest about it. My hubby alerted me about “the importance of his mental health” after our first child. At first I was like wtf but we must also understand altho the changes we have with our body and mental health is legit, theirs are not to be neglected too. We just have to tweak our mind and be positive, rule over the hormones. For sex, I realise they just want some sexy times to release themselves so dont dash his hope of no sex for so long haha (Dont have to be painful for you, just be gentle), relax and put yourself in the mood that your husband craves for you still. Think love. If intimacy is a problem now, with baby’s arrival it can get worst so now is the perfect time to fix it. Men is simple. Lol good luck!