i am in a relationship and my partner has a 10 year old daughter from her previous marriage. i also have a 6 year old girl who lives with my ex-wife. we are planning to get married, but not sure how to break it to the kids. any suggestions?

have your kids met the respective partners and the kids? if not, i think you should do it now. once the kids meet each other they will be able to form a better bond and understand what's going on. also, it is important that you have the kids on board before going in for the new relationship status. of course it is important that you are happy and with someone you want to be with, but it is also important to do it in a way that will keep your kids happy and secure too. plan an outing and discuss it honestly with the kids.