I have joined parenting groups or mummys' group chats since 2013, after the birth of my first child. At first all was good, quite some tips and support from fellow mummies and members. Things took a plunge when my finances turned bad upon learning of my second pregnancy. I have been unemployed since first child's inability to adapt to his childcare environment - always falling ill - and it led to my resignation due to lack of family support for alternative caregiving and career suicide from taking too many leaves. Thereafter, I could no longer afford luxuries like traveling, even to Malaysia, or local playdates that require expensive entry to indoor playgrounds. While the other mummies were arranging high tea dates, I made known my financial status and didn't join. As a result, I no longer felt belonged and was often ignored or left out in group conversations. I felt like I was the only mummy asking for government subsidies and going for non private subsidised gynae. I am worried that without the usual support from fellow mummies, I may be depressed after childbirth. I had relied alot on the groups to get advice and solace for my first baby. Are there any parenting groups or useful hotlines which may not discriminate financially challenged mummies like me?

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Sister Rene, I feel you. You are a mother and be proud. You have joined the new workforce that is to working 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, lesser rest, lesser personal time, lesser travelling, no income, but you are nurturing your children with your love that no one, and truly no one that will be so much caring and very much concern for your LOs, and to a limit not spoiling them. This is a project that needs many years to see the result of your effort, which you need new ways of working at different phases of as their growing up. Everyone has good fortune in some ways and maybe other challenges along our life, and we will do the best we can. Let's tweet towards positivity and you can do it.

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