I have a 4 yr old son. He is aggressive towards younger kids than him. He is the only child with no small cousins etc around us . Even in playareas he will hit the ones younger to him without being incited. On seeing them he will push, hit and kick. Even if strangers smile etc. he will reply on unfriendly tone saying No. Otherwise he is a normal, hyperactive but very intelligent and observant of his surroundings & people. Is it because I slap/spank him whenever he is aggressive with me. But if I do not hit or spank/slap him he pinches etc badly. He will be joining an International school this August in Singapore and I am worried as to how he will be with kids their. He is short-tempered. I am very fed-up.

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Be consistent every time. Say in sole words "we don't hurt others". Instead if disciplining him right there, turn ur attention towards the hurt children. Comfort them. This means you are sending him a message that he cannot get ur attention by misbehavior. Also reward him by loving words every time he does kind things. Let them be simple gestures of helping out in ur daily work. Or anything else. It sends a message to him that he gets more attention when he does good things. Its just a balance. He will learn it soon. You can model kind gestures to him. When you talk kindly to neighbours or kids, tell h, " see, I have got more friends because of being friendly " He will grow out of this phase fast.

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Home Toddler i have 4yr old son aggressive towards younger than him he only child with small cousins etc around even in playareas hit ones younger him without being incitedon seeing them push hit kickeven if strangers smile etc reply unfriendly tone saying nootherwise normal hyperactive but very intelligent observant surroundings peopleis because i slapspank him whenever aggressive with but if i not hit spankslap him pinches etc badlyhe joining internati