You're not alone. My mum is currently helping me to take care of my 5 mths old baby. She doesn't have to fork out any single cent and get paid monthly too. She keeps on complaining my baby is not easy to take care and ask me to find a caretaker or ask me don't work. I already explained many times to her that I cannot don't work. Her mindset is in the past only male go work female stay home. She insist say can survive. Yes this works only provided your hubby is a high earner but not my case. I told my mum to tahan till my baby reach 18 mths and I will send her to childcare. To my gd will I propose to hired a maid to help her during the day, she rejected straight away without any reason. Just keep saying that she don't like. Every evening when I went over to fetch my baby, she was doing nth but watching TV only. My baby is screaming in the auto cradle but she ignore! Nowadays I have to tell lies when I am on leave or MC. When im sick or on leave, she will throw back to me ask me take care myself. I need some breathing space too esp when im sick. She has nvr work before therefore she thinks working is easy. All I can say is she wants easy job and still get $. She didn't realise that many times and cases that she has been creating and giving problem to me and my hubby. So your mum at least not so bad as she still knows how to go out work. Mine everyday rot and home watch TV do nth but only complaint. If there are alternative choice I wont have ask her to help me look after. IFC too expensive if not I rather send my baby there to learn things.
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