I feel sad. I want to delay putting my lo in childcare as much as possible. I want her to have a free childhood. But me and my husband are both working. Being a sahm mom is not an option because of financial issues. My mom who is her current caretaker when I'm at work told me that she wants me to send my kid to childcare asap. If not, find a babysitter elsewhere. I don't understand why she can't wait a few more months. The way she talks about my lo is like she's a burden. We give her the same amount of money she earns when she was working, for taking care of my lo. And we don't even ask her to do anything (house chores Etc) or buy anything. Just to take care of lo. I feel so guilty. I feel like I'm robbing my child of a carefree childhood. She has to start school so early (my mom asked me to put her in childcare at 18 mths) and won't stop till she starts working in adulthood. I just wish I can become a sahm and look after her myself. I teared looking at her after I pat her to sleep. If any of you have any positive words to share, please do. I need them right now.

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I don't think being in childcare means no childhood though. She have friends there to interact, learning social skills as well? Whole day taking care of child is really not easy as age is catching up like your mum. You may actually wish to consider her suggestions but have to lower her allowances since it will be used up for the childcare fees. Then all she needs is to fetch your LO and prepare dinner?

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5y ago

glad to know you have made a decision. in that case your mum can be a helping hand when LO cannot goes to school eg. sick, school closure days.