Am I being a difficult person? (PS: sorry for the long post)

Question

I feel angry when my spouse go back to his parents place every other day for dinner after work while his brother doesn’t and is able to spend time with his own family but why does my husband keep going back to his home like is wants a single life. It’s not as though he is single parent (I would understand his worry if he is in that situation but his parents are able to take care of each other) .I am heavily pregnant and staying with my parents and he only unwillingly shift over 1-2 weeks ago. His frequency of going home makes me understand how much he is unwilling to stay over at mine. And he only know the importance of moving only when I went to the hospital on my own due to suspected preterm labour while he is sleeping soundly in the comfort of his parents. He also doesn’t feel and understand what I go through as a pregnant person and think I am having an easy life just staying home while he needs to work.. I don’t know if it’s the hormones that is talking or what. Can anyone enlighten me please ? I need someone to talk sense to me if I am not making sense .

Anonymous · Answer

Most people won’t be comfortable staying with inlaws (be it husband or wife) unless your inlaws are gold and treat you way better than their own child which is super rare to come by. Because at your own home, you get to be the real you while over at inlaws, there’s always a mask regardless of how good you’re with your inlaws. It takes only one small thing to trigger your inlaws. Standing at your POV, I also understand how it feels for your spouse to keep going back instead of accompanying you at this crucial period. Maybe talk to him like maybe comprimise to weekends since you’re gonna give birth anytime and you prefer him to be around so you feel safer. (Let him feel good and needed). Most importantly don’t compare as it’s a rather sensitive topic. His brother may not always go back to his parent’s place, but he also may not be home to accompany his family. He could be out hanging out with friends and etc.