Narcissist LIP 🤦🏻‍♀️

I don't know if it's just my hormones pero lately naiinis ako sa partner ko. Wala nang ibang kwento kundi about sa kanya, about sa work and minsan parang lagi nya binibida na in favor lahat sa kanya sa work pati mga boss. I mean I get it na nag eexcel sya ngayon sa work and excited lang sya magkwento and I'm proud of him pero everytime magkkwento sya, nagpapaligo ako ng bata, nagpapakain, nagliligpit nag aasikaso ng pagkain like I'm already drowning in motherhood kamustahin mo naman ako lol tapos nakatingin lang sya as I look so tired and sweaty habang nagkkwento sya ng stuff about him? Napaka insensitive. Wala naman masama magkwento pero sana i-timing na nakapahinga ako or relax di ung nagkanda pagod pagod na ko tas nakatingin lang habang nagkkwento napaka self centered. Tapos pag nagsalita ako about my feelings magmumuka akong sensitive. He doesnt even listen to me pag ako nagkkwento or nagrarant pero pag sya dapat all ears. We rarely have a serious conversation. And when we do, pag ako nagsasalita, pilit lng response nya pero pag sya na nagsalita it's always about him. I don't feel like we're partners anymore. Dalawa na anak namin isang 3yo old and isang 6mos old pero parang housemate nalang ganern lol kaloka. Doesn't even help me take care of the kids kahit rest day man lang haaay. Siguro isa to sa mga reason why maraming naghihiwalay na mag asawa kahit maliliit palang mga anak nila. Honestly I don't feel appreciated, heard, and seen. I have a life before I met him, I was working, I'm independent and I'm not used na magdepend sa ibang tao. I used to pamper myself everytime mastress but now it's totally different and everyday it gets harder. I give my 100% to everyone to the point na nothing's left for me. Ang hirap hirap maging nanay but it's the most rewarding job in the world. Sana lang ung mga lalaki mauntog at maging sensitive sa feelings nating mga nanay na nag give-up at nagparaya para matutukan ang mga bata. Nag offer pa one time na palit kami sya sa mga bata at ako magwork. Hello? Di nga makapagpalit ng diaper eh. Gusto nyo yon? Lol nakakaloka #partnerproblems

Maria

Mommy of 2 lovely little girls

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I agree with all the comments here, communication is the key. Inexplain sakin ng husband ko yan before pag lagi ako naiinis sakanya kasi wala siyang initiative and feeling ko insensitive siya. Hindi talaga same ang traits ng general women sa men. We girls initiate, we are sensitive, we are more caring by nature. Then when I communicated all my feelings sa kanya, ayun, naintindihan na niya mga needs ko and mga gusto kong mangyari, sa start nga lang medyo mahirap yung transitioning sa both sides niyo. Pero he asked me to tell him the things he should do and those things I want him and need him to do. (i'm working and he's handling their family business and nasanay siya na may helper, though we still have one, pero I'm trying to teach him also) he has more free time than me, so I ask him even the smallest things like, pag puno na yung trash tapos na sa labas and change na ng bagong plastic, pag nagising ligpit bed etc etc., now when I go home, di na ko nasstress sa kalat. And yun nga sabi niya, need lang naman pagusapan kasi hindi sila like us girls na tingin pa lag naiintindihan na natin, sila no, kailangan pa natin iexplain. I hope makapagcommunicate kayo well and be able to fix whatever issues you both have.

Magbasa pa

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Home Baby Care i dont know if hormones pero lately naiinis ako sa partner ko wala nang ib