Hi, I am 7 to 8 months pregnant. Just need to rant out how I feel... I start to worry about labour pain as I decided to opt for normal delivery as I heard a lot of side effect on epidural, but I don't know if I can even handle the labour pain (I have low tolerance for pain) I also worry that how my in laws will be involving in my life. I kind of hate it when my FIL and SIL only asked about baby and how they going to pamper him when he is out. But the whole pregnancy I was taken care by my own family and my in laws they did nothing at all.. I feel really sad when they only care about the baby that's why I worry after I give birth I have no control over my own baby. My SIL, she is single and like to involve herself in my husband life. She tell my husband to ask me to endure the normal delivery without using anything anesthetic or else he have to pay more money. She is more worry about her brother spend on my labour. I just get so irritated by my In laws. I did not tell my husband because I don't want him having a hard time between his family and me. So I get myself feeling so lost, worry and sad. Sorry for the long post. I just need to rant it out.

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Dear, try to set aside some times and have a discussion with your husband. list out the point that worries you and discuss why u feeling this way and how can it be solved. You need to find someone to support you in this journey..not only during pregnancy but also during post-partum (after giving birth). Post Natal Depression is scary and may lead to other major problems. You may also share your concern with your gynae. But husband should be the best supporter. If you are really into natural birth, you may want to join a natural birthing class to gain more knowledge on how to relax during labour. I know some doula will held the class on september such as below: 1. Fourtrimesters - http://www.fourtrimesters.com/our-team/doula-ginny-phang/ 2. Yaqyn Birth - https://yaqynbirth.com/ Im not saying that natural birth wont be painful but with knowledge it will ease your labour. With knowledge you will produce more oxytocin which needed in labour. You may opt for epidural too if you think you can't handle it. Trust your body. As for the in laws, i think we all mother went through the same things. Its very hard to stop others when they are toooooo excited. Its ok, let them be but of cos you can be strict when it comes to parenting/giving birth. heeee~ For me, i dont like to argue but i usually take my baby, apologize saying it time for his/her milk or sleep and walk out. Family is still important no matter how ridiculous their behavior is. You may want to watch this video to boost your confidence by one of Singapore doula: https://youtu.be/szjuwyJPB8A All the best dear :)

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