Hi i can understand how you feel...i gave birth yo my daughter close to 3 weeks ago. I had somewhat the same experience as you do. During pregnancy, my in laws almost didnt care abt how i feel, only think about the baby. Always push the responsibility to my mum’s side. For example, we don’t cook at home so they always ask me go back to my mum’s place to eat home cooked food etc. as they dunno what to prepare for me to 补. But my first trimester my morning sickness was very bad. And although my mum’s place is only few bus stops away, i still feel tired to travel.
I also worried about labour etc when my due date was nearing. I actually did not want epidural if possible. From my experience, epidural helps alot and for me there are no side effects. I have low pain tolerance as well. I already could not take the pain when i was 2-3cm dilated so i decided i had to take epidural.
It is really a life saver as i did not feel any pain after that (even during pushing) i was able to have strength to push and able to recover faster post delivery.
Yes, initially i also don’t want epidural cos extra money, about $1k? But rly some money cannot be saved... don’t care ur SIL she didnt go thru pregnancy and wont be going thru the labour of cos she wont understand.
In laws issue is like cannot be avoided one la. Like for now, my issues with in laws are about how to take care and handle my newborn daughter. They are over protective of her while my husband and me have our own thinking and ways.
Just rant it out and move on... divert your attention to your baby!
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