My husband and I have been respecting the decision or request made by our firstborn (she is 4 years old) since young. As we noticed those lessons (ballet, pony riding, wushu class) that she requested by herself, she will put in her utmost effort and do it all by herself without us having to remind her at all. To both my husband and myself, we are not so much into academic or survival skill; we feel that by developing her talents (her purpose in life) she might excel or be even more successful in life. However, we were told otherwise that we should only invest her time in "surviving activities" like swimming, music class, "I can read" or special class that start them on the right foot for better grades, etc. I don't feel like forcing her and mould her into a "standard" child but worry my decision might cause her left behind in the future when she starts schooling. Hope the mommies and daddies here can share with me on some good advice.

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Hello! My sentiments really! Nurturing her what she is most interested in and she will do it well. I'm sure by now she is already showing sense of responsibility, commitment, discipline, and all those positive attributes. Isn't that life surviving skills? Just to share with you. My then 3years old went for a free trial to a very reputable Enrichment Academy and was told by a Sales Representive that she will not be able to read when she goes to Primary 1 as she is unable to start reading at 3years old. I felt like blowing my top. I was like, SHE IS ONLY 3. Imagine ourselves when we were only 3 years old? What did we do? My advise is just don't fall trap in this rat race and you are the mummy and do what is most benificial for your child n family. If you think you have to start educating her for swimming because its important for her life than do so and not because some other person told you she needs to otherwise she will loose out. Hang in there yah☺

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