My husband and I have been respecting the decision or request made by our firstborn (she is 4 years old) since young. As we noticed those lessons (ballet, pony riding, wushu class) that she requested by herself, she will put in her utmost effort and do it all by herself without us having to remind her at all. To both my husband and myself, we are not so much into academic or survival skill; we feel that by developing her talents (her purpose in life) she might excel or be even more successful in life. However, we were told otherwise that we should only invest her time in "surviving activities" like swimming, music class, "I can read" or special class that start them on the right foot for better grades, etc. I don't feel like forcing her and mould her into a "standard" child but worry my decision might cause her left behind in the future when she starts schooling. Hope the mommies and daddies here can share with me on some good advice.

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I think it's great what you and your husband are doing! It encourages your child to explore her interests. I personally feel that it is more important that a child enjoys what he/she is learning, than to be forced to learn what she "should" be learning (haha.. we have our schools for that!). I highly doubt that she will be left behind. She probably cultivated a great habit of learning from being able to explore her interests. This will probably equip her with the necessary skills to learn what she need to in school when the time comes. Just my two cents. :)

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Home Toddler husband i have been respecting decision request make firstborn 4 year old since young noticed those lessons ballet pony riding wushu class that request herself put in utmost effort herself without having remind both husband myself not much into academic survival skill feel that developing talents purpose in life might excel more successful in life however told otherwise that should only invest time in surviving activities like swimm