husband wants to live separately from famimly

My husband and I have been married for about 4 years and we have 2 children, one baby and one toddler. Like any household, we don't always get along perfectly, but I thought that was normal. However, lately, my husband has seemed quieter and just says "yes, yes" to everything. Two weeks ago, he was transferred to another office (the distance is kind of in between, not close but not too far either). Yesterday, he said he wanted to rent an apartment near his office because he's tired of commuting back and forth. After digging deeper, it turns out he feels physically tired and... tired of coming home to a messy house. Seeing me and hearing all my stories of the day (I’m a housewife). Not to mention when I get angry. He feels that he can't focus and work optimally at the office. He said he would come home on weekends, but during weekdays he wants to stay in the apartment... I’m sad and confused. I understand what he’s saying about our house always being messy because we have two small children. I do always talk and complain a lot. I also often unconsciously get angry with him, maybe because I'm tired from taking care of the house and the kids all day... He somewhat blames this for his failure to get a promotion to a better position. He says his mental state is somewhat affected. It seems he’s not really fond of young children. Do you think it’s normal for a husband to want to live separately from his wife and children?

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No its not but it depends on ur beliefs and morals too. U are a stay home mom and work 24/7 always on call and no breaks. Very selfish for a husband to say tired of coming home to a messy environment and overwhelmed partner. When he knocks off work he gets to rest, listen to music, uninterrupted time. Im more worried that before all this blow up, he didnt come home to clean, cook, play and entertain his wife! NoT FoND of YoUng CHildrEn my A$. Did he use birth control during the beginning of the marriage to prevent a pregnancy? Did he sit and discuss what his objective for marriage was? Is a bloody promotion priority and not the family? If promotion was for better salary, getting a rental and buying meals out helps with finances not? In an emergency and u faint and ur children are left on their own on a random weekday night what happens next? Is this the example of a father/husband/man ur children will grow up with? Therefore is this an acceptable example of a man for ur daughter to marry one day? A quiet apartment with no wife and kids confirm no prossie or other women? Can guarantee the marriage will be safe? IDK MAN IM SO WORKED UP READING THIS. Im a stay home mom. I have a baby at home. I have a husband who works hard and comes home stressed with us. But we talk it out we fight we argue but we put us first for God. Regardless if we didnt believe we would've put us first to break bad cycles of neglect and abuse from previous generation or normalised social stereotypes e.g. husband come home eat sex sleep. No sense of responsibility for family or home. Im sorry but this are my thoughts please dont mind.

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