My husband has been caught using tinder by my friends and i even found alot evidence matching to him using tinder. Found ss photos of the tinder girls on his “screenshot” folder, the day he used the photo the dates all match up to when i caught him using, otp of tinder to log in or something, emails flooded with tinder promotional emails ever since that month which i caught him using. Have talked to him the previous time when i didnt had much evidence, was blamed on scolded on and even manipulated. Forgave him and kept quiet, yesterday was such a hectic day just cant stand his attitude getting worse on me. So i checked his phone, became sherlock and found all those extra details. All layed out nicely that he did use tinder, but he kept denying and even shouted and screamed at me for disrespecting him to checking his phone. He say even if im his wife i have no rights to check his phone at all. Tbh i dont even check his phone or anything. But yesterday my friend suggested it cause of similar scenarios. I checked once and already kena so bad. Blamed, shouted, screamed, manipulated all saying he did not use!! And only kept lying to himself and everyone around us. Thanks for reading, any mummies felt the same way?

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Hi Anon this is called gaslighting ie making you feel like you're in the wrong to hide his guilt and shame. It's a huge red flag in any relationship. Not sure if he has cheated physically yet but he definitely has the intention to. Plus in my view using tinder and talking to other girls is already considered emotional cheating. Can you really trust him after this? You deserve much, much better than this. I'm so sorry this happened to you but I hope you can be strong and walk away!

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