My husband had an affair 1 year ago. I did not leave him and he promised me that it will not happen again. But ever since that incident, I find it almost impossible to have sex with him. He has indeed been a great hubby trying to make up for what he did but I just find it difficult to even be intimate. Will I always feel this way?
Time will heal the pain . Give yourself some time and don't pressure yourself too much. When you are ready to accept his mistake and move on sex will come back naturally for the both of you. You may need to let your husband know about this though and let him know you are not ready yet. I know it has been a year but such things take longer than a year to move on. Maybe try going on a trip with him just two of you to regain the Sparks??Read more
Hi there It seems that the mutual trust between you and your husband has been broken and affected. It certainly takes lots of effort and time to build back the trust again. It will definetly take some time in building the trust again. Tell yourself to look more on the bright side and the happier points instead. Look at the effort he is putting in to reclaim his trust from you. Hang in there mommy. Things will def get betterRead more
Hi, Time will help you with this phase. But I think you should talk to your husband about how you are feeling and since he is caring, he will understand about how are you feeling and will help you and things will get betterRead more
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Oh dear I’m so sorry that you have to go through this :( So disrespectful of him. I cannot imagine how I am going to react after seeing my spouse have intimate relationship with a non living thing. It spooks me. Anyway I think he has been introduced to this idea from somewhere or someone. If I were you, I’d be interested to find out where he got all these information from like dolling up and lubricating a doll. It’s a slippery road because I think it’s a norm in Japan to treat these dolls like a real person? Apart from sexually, now he’s investing real emotions too...Anonymous
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