Sorry but have to say, your husband is considered very 'normal' even though you find him not doing anything about it. Men is like that. Very few fathers gets excited and want to help out or get interested in merticulous stuffs like doing research, which usually is not their forte. So I suggest you can hang out with helpful female friends or sisters to shop for sterilizers and baby stuffs so that you wouldn't channel all the expectations on your husband alone. Understand that you wished to get him involved in this wonderful journey but remember don't throw too many information and tasks for him at one time, he might be not so receptive and feel overwhelmed. Take things with a light approach and do get help when babies arrives, cos it will be tough without help and he goes back to work.
To answer your question, my husband was not really involved in my son's earlier years. He love his son but he relied a lot on MIL to take care of him when I was working last time. Which means he didnt took the effort to fetch him back and stay at home with just the both of them. Things were better when our son was older and more interactive.
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