How involved is your Husband in your children's lives? I'm just disappointed that my husband doesn't seem ready to be a Father yet. He's not young, he's just like a blockhead. I tried to send him articles to read, encourage him to read up more about pregnancy and how to handle kids as a first time parents. He's excited about having kids but he's not doing anything else. I added him in Fb mummies n daddies group so that he can read those queries that mummies daddies post. Because of some complications in pregnancy I gotta quit my job. So I'm so free to Google n check things out. Like what milk bottles to buy, breast pump, milk powder, diapers, when's baby fair what to buy at the fair etc etc etc etc. So I asked him for opinion he will be like "I'll check" but he NEVER GET BACK TO ME. I ask again n again on separate days. There's a upcoming baby fair and I said the baby fair don't seem to sell the Sterilizer I want. He's like what you want ; Oh, then how? I was mad. I mentioned Hanil like 10-20 times before?!! Is he even listening. I scolded him, don't think u are the only one working now u can't don't care anything. Because next time I'll go back to workforce and I can foresee I'll be only one handling both of them (I'm Expecting twins). I'm too is a ftm but I dislike how he know nuts and still doesn't seem to be worried. I even create excel spreadsheet to let know how what is needed for mummy and babies if anything he don't know he has to ask me or Google but he didn't even read through the spreadsheet. don't get me wrong he's a nice Husband, he massage me Every night even wash my feet for me because I can't bend down to reach. How can I make him be more involve in pregnancy n get him ready to be a daddy ?

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Sorry but have to say, your husband is considered very 'normal' even though you find him not doing anything about it. Men is like that. Very few fathers gets excited and want to help out or get interested in merticulous stuffs like doing research, which usually is not their forte. So I suggest you can hang out with helpful female friends or sisters to shop for sterilizers and baby stuffs so that you wouldn't channel all the expectations on your husband alone. Understand that you wished to get him involved in this wonderful journey but remember don't throw too many information and tasks for him at one time, he might be not so receptive and feel overwhelmed. Take things with a light approach and do get help when babies arrives, cos it will be tough without help and he goes back to work. To answer your question, my husband was not really involved in my son's earlier years. He love his son but he relied a lot on MIL to take care of him when I was working last time. Which means he didnt took the effort to fetch him back and stay at home with just the both of them. Things were better when our son was older and more interactive.

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