Problems with MIL

Hi all, how do you all deal with problematic MILs? In summary, we moved out 2.5 yrs ago due to a quarrel she had with her son, but blamed me for not supporting her and even called me names. It was a torturous 3 months before I packed my luggage and moved out on a sour note with my husband. Currently, I'm pregnant and my FIL is aware(definitely will tell her). I'm just thinking about the future, i don't ever wanna see her but what if they want to see the baby? Should i allow? God knows what she will do to the baby? My husband is not on talking terms with her too. Even though 2.5 yrs have passed, my hatred towards her is still strong. Sigh.

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Follow your heart and instincts. Afterall it’s your baby, if the relationship is not healthy, then it’s totally fine to cut it off. It sounds like you’re on talking terms with your fil still, maybe can offer to bring fil out for a meal then let him interact with baby? (Whatever it is your mil will probably be angry anyways so why bother right?😂) Alternatively, if she’s willing to apologise (in this case I won’t go and make peace first) and make peace, no harm trying to accept her again. But be prepared that there will definitely be people who will tell you “oh it’s not fair to stop your child from interacting with their grandparents blahblah”, especially elderlies, so you have to really shut your ears for good.

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