Problems with MIL

Hi all, how do you all deal with problematic MILs? In summary, we moved out 2.5 yrs ago due to a quarrel she had with her son, but blamed me for not supporting her and even called me names. It was a torturous 3 months before I packed my luggage and moved out on a sour note with my husband. Currently, I'm pregnant and my FIL is aware(definitely will tell her). I'm just thinking about the future, i don't ever wanna see her but what if they want to see the baby? Should i allow? God knows what she will do to the baby? My husband is not on talking terms with her too. Even though 2.5 yrs have passed, my hatred towards her is still strong. Sigh.

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If they want to see the baby and you’re ok with the FIL and forgive her then you can set boundaries like if you don’t want her to carry yet, or short period of time then get husband to say you need to rest etc and if the first time is very toxic and unpleasant then just don’t let her visit baby already. Alternatively since you say you still hate her, do what’s best for you, only unless she apologizes then can visit baby. So see what you feel like by then. After pregnancy there’ll be also post natal blues sometimes so best if you deal with her only if you feel mentally fine!

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