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I think, you need to talk to them and counsel them till the habit is gone. Also, if you are going to scold them, punish them, chances are they are they are never going to shun this bad habit. First find out the reason why the kid is lying. Are they lying to cover up something wrong they have done, or they are lying for fun. Sometimes, kids lie and cook a story to see your reaction or make you laugh. You can encourage your child not to lie by praising him when he says the truth. What I do with my child is when she says a lie, I tell her that mamma's heart feels very bad when you lie, and I become very sad. And when she sees my sad face, she promises never to make me sad. You can read stories like The boy who cried wolf, which gives a moral lesson that one should not lie. You can just cook story on and off that how one day you met a little boy and he was lying to her mamma, and his mother felt so bad, but you in your heart felt proud because you know your baby doesn't lie to mamma. Also, sometimes we are the ones who leave no choice with children but lying. For example; if milk spills on the table, we would come shouting at the kid or scold him. We should control our anger and should make the child at ease and tell him that it is okay and it happens. So, from next time, if some mistake happens the kid will not hide or lie to save himself. He would know that his parents will understand and he will tell everything as it is.
the first rule - don't embarrass or humiliate them, whether just in front of you and definitely not in front of anyone else. most kids go through this phase, where they are not sure of what they are doing, even though they know it is not approved by parents, and end up doing it nonetheless. at such times, there's a lot of confusion and guilt, and the last thing they are able to do is come and confess. talk to your child in a normal and friendly tone. let them know that you are aware of what has happened, but don't make it an issue. be open in your talks with your kid so that next time they feel comfortable to discuss things with you, and the lies go down considerably. as a parent, try and not be judgmental, as it can give out a very negative impression to kids.
Don’t freak out if you catch your child lying: he’s not destined for a life of crime. A child’s first lie is actually a significant developmental milestone. To lie, a child needs good verbal skills, plus enough imagination to be able to invent an alternate reality. He probably understands that telling the truth would disappoint someone -- which shows that he understands expectations and emotions. So instead of punishing your child for lying, try gently confronting him with the truth. (“I see cookie crumbs on your face,” for instance.) Talk briefly about the importance of telling the truth, but don’t lecture him.
the first thing i would suggest here is please be subtle and do not scold. lying is a phase that many kids go through, especially when they are moving from one age category to the other, such as toddler, young child, older child, tween, teen and so on. it is a a way for kids to see what all they can get away with and what boundaries they can stretch. i would say talk to the child and explain that you love him or her, but there are certain things that are not right. don't nag about it but make it known that you are aware of what happened.
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How we can control our temper when they lie,not doing thing in manner of time, watching TV all the time, alys say no for all the things??
For me it's not easy to have patience,,pls suggest me some good tips.