How can I tell if I am being a good mother?

You measure any work done by checking the outputs. How is your kid coming along? Is he/she turning out to be what you expected of? Then you're going on right direction. Some specific values I'd want to see in my kid would be - respect people - put focus, on whatever you're doing - not too demanding or spoiled/rich kinda behavior Extra qualities I'd love would be - to make him/her an explorer, never say no, just try things once tough or easy