How can I tell if I am being a good mother?

This motherhood thing is strange isn't it? It's the oldest, most natural thing that can happen to a woman; yet NO ONE can put it in a template. How much time we spend at home, if we bring the kids out..the food we give them, the food we dont give them..the things we buy, the things we swear we never would.. none of it matters so much.. The fact that you asked, means you wanna be, and that is all that matters. :)