This is very common, the same goes to my mil as well. Both my mil and fil are 2 face. I'm 37 weeks and this is my 3rd pregnancy. I stay very near my in laws because they said they will help to take care of my kids so that I am able to work in peace. But after my 2nd pregnancy, she doesn't even come over to help with confinement even though we just stay opposite with each other. She said she was busy entertaining guest because it's cny. Nvm, now I'm on my 3rd pregnancy, my in law don't even bother on my pregnancy at all. I was working part time, so that I am able to fetch my eldest and younger son after school. My mil is free, but she don't even bother to help me pick up my kids. I need to rush off from work, fetch the kids to their house for dinner. But recently, my tummy and back always feel very pain, I felt very tired as well. So I asked my husband to help me as he is wfh now. My in laws are very unhappy about this and question me, why am I at their house, where are the kids? I told them my husband went to fetch the kids instead as my tummy don't feel well recently. My fil was unhappy and said, I should be the one fetching my kids, if they are crying and need me to carry them home, just carry them, if I dont feel well, just let my son cry on the floor and wait till a stranger come and help me. I was so shocked with his answer. They are not helping and still said such a sarcastic remark to me. They always like to say nasty things to me when my husband is not around. My fil said he want to bring the whole family out for a holiday next year, he warned me that if I am pregnant again, he will bring the whole family for holiday while I stay at home alone to take care of my kids. He also suggested that I should C-sect for this pregnancy and ask the doctor to do the tubal ligation as well, so that I will not have any kids in the future. Tbh, I am very upset and angry with what they had said. Why must I be the one who need to sacrifice? Also, they keep saying that I should go back to work straight after I give birth. I worked in F&B industry and it is hard for me to take care of 2 toddlers and 1 infant if I were to go back to work. They said it very clearly that they do not wish to help us take care of the kids. It is very annoying, expecting me to earn money and work, do housework, take care of my 3 kids. My life feels worse than a maid. So if you feel that your in laws are toxic, just stay away from them, never let your kids be near them too. For those who have toxic in law, just depend on yourself, never depend on others. If they say anything nasty to you, just ignore and stay away from them. Also let your husband know what is going on as well. Jiayou mummy! Sometimes we might feel lonely and left out, but for the sake of our kids, let us be strong, jiayou mummy's!