Obviously you both still think that your marriage is worth salvaging because you both are willing to go and see a counsellor on this. That is a great first step! Like Ling and Denise have mentioned, visit a family service centre for marital counselling. Maybe before going to the counsellor, I suggest sitting down and talking to him. Let him know how you feel - tell him why you want to go out with him & your family (there are ways to spend time out without spending much money), tell him that you would like to spruce up you guys' sex life, tell him you would like to receive more hugs and kisses. Let him know you would like to see him more involved and not always playing with the phone. Maybe ask why he doesn't do the things you have mentioned. Ask him if he has any opinions on how to spend family day together, etc! Open communication is very important and I believe talking to each other will be a big first step. It might be a little be awkward or even frustrating the first time, but keep talking, keep engaging in conversations with your husband. I hope that helps, good luck!
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