Tit for Tat

Has anyone else hit their child after they hit you? Okay - hear me out. Sometimes I feel staying calm and reasoning with them doesn't work. So once in a while when my toddler hits me, I tap her back - real gently but enough to make her think I hit her that it makes her cry. It's not painful at all, honestly. I just want to show her that hitting is not nice and she wouldn't want it to be done to her. Like this morning, she was pulling her big sister's hair real hard and wouldn't let go even after I calmly told her to let go, which escalated to me raising my voice at her to let go. So I took one of her pigtails and pulled it too. That worked instantly. Raising my threenager is such a challenge to my patience! My eldest wasn't like this at all when she turned three.

Carla Perlas

VP of Communications, The Parentinc

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I pull my daughters hair when she pulls mine, till she stops. Usually ends up with her wailing away and refusing to say sorry. I think it’s okay. She only stops when she feels the pain too.

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Home Preschooler has anyone else hit their child after hit okay hear out sometimes i feel staying calm reasoning with them doesnt work once in while when toddler hits i tap back real gently but enough make think i hit that makes cry not painful honestly i want show that hitting not nice wouldnt want done like morning was pulling big sister hair real hard wouldnt let go after i calmly told let go which escalated raising voice let go i took pigtails