MIL always want to win

Question

Really enough of her. Everytime want to win over an argument, with every one in the household. Everytime when my hub and I talk to her about the little one out, after we back home. We will talk things like how long he taken his nap or how much he eaten. Or next day he poop alot or not. When we mention he didnt poop, how frequent per day or how much. She will said you all starve him is it? Or he eat not enough? You didnt let him sleep? Everytime all this repeat after every dayout. Dont know if little one is her son or mine. Especially when back from my mums place she will doubt he if he eat enough or not...even ask if my mums is it cook less for him...and also said I always cook very less I  straight away tell her since when, told her the amount of porridge pour to the bowl that we always use to feed is almost full. Keep saying we starve him.Even my hub also said the amount is almost the same as how his mom cook.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Perhaps the solution is to not talk to her about the little one? Or whenever your MIL talk about things you are unhappy about and you can see the direction in which it is going, immediately switch the conversation? For example if she asks you did you starve your baby, maybe just simple answer he is eating well no details needed, and then change to maybe ask her if she is eating well instead for example. Normally a person who can read the room will notice that you keep changing topic and will realise that you are unhappy and will not continue with the rant. My relatives are also like this, and I found my dad's response to be very useful. For example, when I was young, I was very thin, and they would ask if my mum starved me (my mum would be upset like you), but my dad's response would be to over exaggerate as a joke, for example like saying I ate so well like a princess, even better than him yet I can maintain but he grow so fat instead, then change the topic to how they never grow fat, issit because they are starved? He used different ways all the time, but basically the deal is to exaggerate without revealing any details (nothing about bowl is full or same as how your mil cook etc), as if telling a joke and then change topic to talk about something else or the other party instead. Usually this lightens the mood and gives the other party a 台阶 (step) to get down of, and you guys can leave it as that. Discuss other stuff later and don't move back into the convo about your little one to keep your peace.