A friend of mine told me that she have some issues. I don't know how to help or advise her.. She randomly hits her child, bites her child, pushes her child, pinches her child. Even though it is just light hit, bite, push, and pinch that DOES NOT* leave any marks or what. She feels that she have some 'mental' issue of why she's acting this way. She feels guilty doing such things but at the same time she couldn't stop herself from doing it again. She loves her child a lot but yet why does she do such stuffs? Can someone please advise? When she gave birth, she was quite stressed and acted depressed to the extend that she wanted to end both her baby & her life because baby kept crying for no reason & she was sleep deprived. But right after she snapped out of it, she never thought about doing such stuffs to hurt her baby to that extend ever again, but the scar of her ever thought of such dark stuffs hunts her. I am not sure if almost 10 years back she had signs of depression caused her to act this way now or not. I really worried that she do have some mental issues. She is a SAHM. What can i do to help her with all her problems? I don't know what can i do. I know she will never hurt her baby, but at the same time i am scared she might be a case of post natal depression or something far worse. Please advise, and not judge with nasty comments. Thank you in advance!

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I suffer from post depression too after giving birth to my firstborn. I once used a pillow to cover her face to stop her from crying due to all the stress and negative remarks from my parents-in-laws. I also once carried her in my arm and want to throw her down from our window to end her "abnormal" life before I leap to death. Both incidents my husband happened to be home early and stop me on time. The thought just come randomly and I promise I love my kids to bits. I noticed my stress come from my PILs and sister who loves to tell me how bad I am as a Mom or person. The fear of my children because a lousy person like me cause me to feel depressed; hence I stop meeting them to reconnect with myself. I start doing stuff I like so that I don't have time to think about negative stuff, I ask for "me" time when I know I am reaching my limit. I devoted my time to answer topics that i know on online forums to find my worth. I can't say I doing well now as I still hit or beat my girl when I lose my cool. However, I no longer having thought of ending their life or mine. Having someone to talk to and help her to find out the reason why she find depress and tackle it on the first sign will help. I am lucky as my husband know me very well so he will show up with "happy" food when I showing sign that I am stress up at home with kids.

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Home Just Mums friend mine told that have some issuesi dont know how help advise randomly hits child bites child pushes child pinches child though light hit bite push pinch that does not leave marks what feels that have some mental issue why acting way feels guilty doing such things but same time couldnt stop herself from doing again loves child lot but yet why does such stuffs someone please advisewhen gave birth was quite stressed acted depress