A friend of mine told me that she have some issues. I don't know how to help or advise her.. She randomly hits her child, bites her child, pushes her child, pinches her child. Even though it is just light hit, bite, push, and pinch that DOES NOT* leave any marks or what. She feels that she have some 'mental' issue of why she's acting this way. She feels guilty doing such things but at the same time she couldn't stop herself from doing it again. She loves her child a lot but yet why does she do such stuffs? Can someone please advise? When she gave birth, she was quite stressed and acted depressed to the extend that she wanted to end both her baby & her life because baby kept crying for no reason & she was sleep deprived. But right after she snapped out of it, she never thought about doing such stuffs to hurt her baby to that extend ever again, but the scar of her ever thought of such dark stuffs hunts her. I am not sure if almost 10 years back she had signs of depression caused her to act this way now or not. I really worried that she do have some mental issues. She is a SAHM. What can i do to help her with all her problems? I don't know what can i do. I know she will never hurt her baby, but at the same time i am scared she might be a case of post natal depression or something far worse. Please advise, and not judge with nasty comments. Thank you in advance!

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It sounds like it may be beneficial for her to receive some professional help (like counseling). The professionals may help equip her with appropriate coping strategies when she is feeling stressed or experiencing any anxiety/depression. Sometimes, when under stress, one may lose the ability to think rationally and act in a manner that is beyond one's control. It is best to find out what is causing this and intervene accordingly, before it progresses to something more serious. I feel that what you could do is to provide a listening ear when she needs one. You are probably someone she could trust and turn to. Just be there for her when she needed some support would be good. Also, keep a lookout for any changes in behaviour (common symptoms of depression: http://scc.sg/eng/index.php/depression/ | common signs of stress: http://scc.sg/eng/index.php/stress/) and suggest options such as counseling to see if she is open to it. For professional counselling service, you can consider Singapore Counselling Service: http://scc.sg/eng/index.php/counselling-services/ Hope your friend would feel better!

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Home Just Mums friend mine told that have some issuesi dont know how help advise randomly hits child bites child pushes child pinches child though light hit bite push pinch that does not leave marks what feels that have some mental issue why acting way feels guilty doing such things but same time couldnt stop herself from doing again loves child lot but yet why does such stuffs someone please advisewhen gave birth was quite stressed acted depress