I hate my postpartum body

Hi mama, here’s mine. Coming from 42kg prepreg mama here (I was also only 24 when I gave birth so I was devastated with my weight and body, going from XS-L). I gained 18kg during my pregnancy, I was 60kg at birth, my baby? 2.6KG. I thought I could escape stretch marks but unfortunately, it started coming out at 38weeks at rapid speed. Saggy skins, flabby tummy right after birth was hard to accept. Before that I could just brush it off as “pregnant fat nvm”. It took me 8 months to get back to my prepregnancy weight and even lesser (I was 40kg), I still have that mum pouch when I sit down now. Surely, with the convenience of social media, we often see influencers who looks like Kim K right after birth or slimmed down in like 3 days? But then again, everything on the net is just for show. For commoners like myself, even people around me needs a few months to look “not pregnant”. I told myself, I took 9 months to balloon up, I should give it equal or more time to deflate. Also, I was insistent on breastfeeding (pumping) as Google said it can lose weight 😂, so yeah, thankfully bf worked for me and I did managed to shed off a lot of weight (I was also eating a lot). But do note that, I am a SAHM so it’s easier for me to cope with all the crazy pumping schedule. TBH, after awhile I just stick to loose clothings and focusing on daily life rather than my body. I didn’t even realized my weight and body changes till 6m PP when I took out my old dress and then took my weight. Mirror before that for me is just to check if there’s anything on my face or my hair looks fine, I don’t check out my body to avoid being more upset. For me, breastfeeding helps a lot on my weight loss journey and also not bothering about the body and weight. Just focus on eating well, sleeping well and recovering well. I stopped pumping at 18m, just eat normally to maintain my weight at 44-45kg range now.

Yup. I gained 18kg during pregnancy, and after giving birth, my weight didn't even drop coz of water retention. Those first few weeks were tough. I looked and felt so swollen and big. I stopped looking too closely at the mirror, coz I felt that bad. About 2 weeks later, the water came off, so at least I wasn't that round anymore. After that,breastfeeding helped reduced the weight. However, even if I went back to pre pregnancy weight, the waist didn't go back haha. I tell myself tt the shelf tt I have now helps to prop up my baby when I carry him , so that he doesn't slip down. My boobs have also sagged a lot and I am honestly quite sad, but I keep reminding myself that they have nourished and kept my baby alive and well, and to be thankful for them being able to produce milk.