Rant. Mum keeps commenting that I’m spoiling my baby??

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. Especially when its still early into your post partum, it can really affect your mental health. I know the tight feeling in your chest all you want to do is scream and run away. Babies before the age of 6 months do not know that they are a separate body from you. Hence they don't have separation anxiety yet. They are literally one with you! I faced the same problem and caused lots of fights and tears. What really helped me was prep talk before going over to their house and in the event a unnecessary comment arises, I got up the courage and said nicely and in a joking manner, "ehhh I sayang my baby soooo much, Nvm I want to hold him" saying this in a happy and playful tone with a big smile. I hope it gets better for you dear. ❤️

My MIL is even more ridiculous. Told me not to call my baby "guai" or praising him and told me it's forbidden based on superstition. Then, she keeps calling my baby, "huai dan", which I dun get the logic. Then when she heard me singing lullaby and reading my baby storybook when drinking milk, she told me afterwards not to do that, later my baby becomes "used to", don't want to sleep if dun listen to me singing or reading him story. The thing is, we only go visit them once a week but it always feels like a dreadful experience for me :((

omg, exactly like my hubby's family! the worst part is my hubby also kinda side his fam too much :( thr was this one time, CNY time, my baby was just put on sofa while he was crying badly and my hubby and all his fam n aunt who were busy playing mahjong said, just left him there, don't carry him too much later became habit. I could not stand it and I knew he is still a baby (just 2m.o+) for God's sake , so I don't care and just carried him to sleep. I even suffer from PPD greatly because of my in-laws :(

Eeee hate it when other people have this mindset. For god sake. Theyre just a baby. They need comfort. They cant be independent. I rather hold my baby all day long than him being cranky and overtired. He needs a safe space. I totally understand my mil says this too and im so pissed

Totally understand your feeling. My mil also forbid me to carry my baby. But she ownself can carry. If your husband is at your side then good... else such things will be the cause of quarrel like me now.

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