In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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My problem is, everytime my baby sucks on his thumb they said he’s hungry and he’s 5 months now. Why can’t they let us do what we do even though they’ve went through years of taking care of their children? I mean, do have some respect. There are reasons why babies are to be fed when they only turned 6 month. Thank you though for taking care of our grandkids but still, the baby is ours to cater to. We have our own way of parenting. If their teachings makes sense, why not. Do not overstep. That’s whats important.

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4y ago

Mine was opposite.. wife kept wanted to feed bb whenever bb cries, example, right after bath, sucking thumb, rubbing eyes, or cranky ,or slight wake up during naps. Haha. But my mother will say not every crying means milk, else baby will keep associating it with milk and grow fatter and fatter.