In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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Go for IFC. To be honest, after all the subsidies, it’s not really that expensive. Think I paid mine about 200-300.

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Everyone has issues with inlaws. Better to stay away from them as much as possiblr

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Send to infant care and ask MIL to send later/ fetch earlier .. at least in school they learn somethings

Yes definitely face such experience with mil. Always a headache when we need to talk about the care for my own LO

Same. We're already divorced. Sorry to say this but in laws shldn't ever interfere period.

need to adjust once you have delivered the baby the baby is not yours only... it belongs to everybody...

4y ago

Thn u can offer ur child to the world then

from the time they had a newborn till today, pig farming technique has changed at least four rounds

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Me too.. mil will comment how come girl was like tat, compared to other bb which she used to look after ):

5y ago

Ya!!!! 😭😭😭 so now your bb taken care by MIL? I know it isn’t a bad thing to have someone who can take care of bb to help.. sighs. I’m also afraid bb will be closer to her than me:(

take your MIL to your child's doctor and let the expert explain everything

4y ago

no use ...the stubbornness of MIL is no joke I tried...she keep saying "is it?" to the doctor doctor explain already still ask the same question again!!! OMG until I so angry and ask her to wait outside

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Infant care got its set of prob too. Close one eye and be thankful for the help u got.

5y ago

Can't agree with you more. Great to have real good help.