Baby prefers helper to us - the parents!

My baby girl turned 5mths old and she’s growing very attached to our helper who has been taking care of her for 3mths now. Our girl will always look out for her and cry uncontrollably when we carry her until our helper takes over, this is especially so when she’s sleepy and wants her to carry her to sleep - then her cries stops magically. I’ve just returned to work and I’m extremely upset & hurt by this. What can we do? Our helper is doing a great job but at the same time I feel hurt and upset that my baby treats me like a stranger and we don’t want to be overly reliant on our helper as well - Upset 1st time mother :(

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I guess that just means that you need to bond with the baby more often? We understand that as a working adult, sometimes it’s very tiring to still carry and coax your baby when you return from work, but if you don’t bond with your baby enough, it’s normal to have this type of reaction? Usually either me or my hubby will carry the baby the moment we come home and is showered and will start bonding with our baby. We also tend to take care of the baby ourselves during weekends or let my little sister tend to the baby if she comes over. He’s still very attached and comfortable with the maid, but he is equally comfortable with us and have no issues sleeping in our arms. On the bright side, it means that your helper must have been very nice to your baby. So be happy about that. At 3 months old, the baby is still very young. Don’t be upset or offended by this. Just continue treating your maid well so she will reciprocate on your baby. Things will get better as your baby grows older.

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