After 13yrs he shown up for our son graduation,asking to put his name on his birth certificate

After 13yrs he shown up to my son's graduation day,I didn't want na maging kontrabida because it's a special day for my son so I let him be present to that occasion.Then in the middle of the ceremony,he ask me if he can put his name to his son birth certificate.I ask him "for what?",he replied "sa mga insurance and as dependent sa work Niya .I told him that there's no need for that because our son doesn't need it.Tama ba mga mommy na tinanggihan ko?because we have our separate lives and in respect to our partner.he's giving 5k every 3mos for his son.all I want is to be a co-parent to our son pero hearing what he told his workmate (he even didn't admit na his fault or mistakes that we have a broken family but binabaliktad niya lahat to make him innocent).

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sis ask mo muna anak mo if gusto nya ba gamitin ang surname ng papa nya. Kasi may isip na sya eh, If healthy co-parenting ang want mo then ask ur son feelings about his father. Yung inyo ng tatay is tapos na pero ung sa anak nyo hnd pa. If ur son want to use his father surname then be it. Then if not dont do it. Respect ur son decision. Hnd na lang kasi kayong 2 ng tatay ang may feelings kundi pati ung anak nyo. Pero if ako talag hnd ndin ako papayag pa. Kaso anong gagawin mo if gisto ng anak mo diba?

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I think for your son's sake, you can think it over. Mas ok na wag mo nalang pansinin mga hearsay at mas isipin mo ang good effect or benefit na makukuha ng anak mo if there's any. Think of what's best for him. In the end, priority mo is ang well being ng anak nyo and ang future nya. โ˜บ๏ธ It's still a good gesture na he was the one who ask if he can be in your son's Birth Certificate para maging legal dependent ang anak nyo. Much better to talk it over and discuss it more. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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yes, tama na hwag mo na tanggapin. lumipas nga ang 13years na wala sya. why just show up now? kinaya mo naman na wala ung suporta ng tatay ng anak mo. as women, may pride din tayo. hindi yung kung kelan mo lang gusto magpakita, saka ka magpapakita. lagi na lang babae ang dehado. ๐Ÿ˜’ Yes, pwede naman mag co-parent pero wag na magdemand ung tatay ng anak mo ng kung ano ano pa. set boundaries.

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Isipin mo mamsh ang welfare ng son mo, since 13 yr old na sya. Never mind kung ano man nangyari sa inyo ng father nya. Basta mahalaga kapakanan ng anak mo.