After 13yrs he shown up for our son graduation,asking to put his name on his birth certificate

Question

After 13yrs he shown up to my sons graduation day,I didnt want na maging kontrabida because its a special day for my son so I let him be present to that occasion.Then in the middle of the ceremony,he ask me if he can put his name to his son birth certificate.I ask him for what?,he replied sa mga insurance and as dependent sa work Niya .I told him that theres no need for that because our son doesnt need it.Tama ba mga mommy na tinanggihan ko?because we have our separate lives and in respect to our partner.hes giving 5k every 3mos for his son.all I want is to be a co-parent to our son pero hearing what he told his workmate (he even didnt admit na his fault or mistakes that we have a broken family but binabaliktad niya lahat to make him innocent).

Callie · Accepted Answer

sis ask mo muna anak mo if gusto nya ba gamitin ang surname ng papa nya. Kasi may isip na sya eh, If healthy co-parenting ang want mo then ask ur son feelings about his father. Yung inyo ng tatay is tapos na pero ung sa anak nyo hnd pa. If ur son want to use his father surname then be it. Then if not dont do it. Respect ur son decision. Hnd na lang kasi kayong 2 ng tatay ang may feelings kundi pati ung anak nyo. Pero if ako talag hnd ndin ako papayag pa. Kaso anong gagawin mo if gisto ng anak mo diba?

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Princess B · Answer

I think for your sons sake, you can think it over. Mas ok na wag mo nalang pansinin mga hearsay at mas isipin mo ang good effect or benefit na makukuha ng anak mo if theres any. Think of whats best for him. In the end, priority mo is ang well being ng anak nyo and ang future nya. ☺️ Its still a good gesture na he was the one who ask if he can be in your sons Birth Certificate para maging legal dependent ang anak nyo. Much better to talk it over and discuss it more. 😊