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Stay Home Mom
I have been a career woman for 20 years since I started working at the age of 19. Now I am 40 years old and have my first baby this year Jan 2020. I have been having this dilemma, either go back to work after baby is born or be a stay home mom. Somehow the current virus situation kind of make the decision for me. The competitive job market... the uncertainty of the safety at workplace and infant care centre are some of the reasons that make me decide to stay home with my baby. However, I really don't know how to feel fulfilled being a stay home mom. At the back of my mind, I fear that I may get obsolete. I hope some stay home mom out there can give me some tips on how you go through each day at home. How do you keep yourself stay relevant? What else can you do besides taking care of baby, do housework and cook. Basically, I feel lost and feel stuck at home. I just don't know how to be a stay home mom and feel happy about it. Maybe because I'm so used to working.
Baby Not Finishing Her Milk
My baby turning 5months in 4 days. She is on formula milk. Usually, she would drink 5 times a day, 180ml each feeding. Now she is not finishing her milk. Sometimes she drinks 140ml.. 120ml.. or even 80ml. I'm worried that she is not drinking enough. Will it affect her growth and development? What can I do to improve her appetite?
Tummy Time
My baby will be 3 months next week. How much tummy time should baby be doing? Daily or alternate days? I have not let baby do tummy time that much. When I let her do tummy time, my MIL said I should not force baby to lie on tummy too much as baby will roll to her tummy naturally when time comes. Will less tummy time delay baby motor skills?
Lower Back Ache ?
I think I bend too much when carrying, bathing and changing baby. Now my lower back aches so bad. Will rubbing medicated oil or putting medicated plaster stop the aching? Or do I need to go for massage? Or see a chiropractor?
Feeling Tensed Going Out Without BABY
My hubby let me have some me-time at the hair salon today and he took care of baby at home. My baby is 58-days old. Somehow, I couldn't feel relax. I feel very tensed and feel the need to rush home ASAP to attend to her. My heart kinda beat quite fast. Is this normal for new moms? Will we grow out of this? How to overcome this anxiety. Please share.
Lupus and Pregnant
Anyone here has Lupus and pregnant? Since I was diagnosed with Lupus, an autoimmune disease in 2012, I have been living with chronic pain and fatigue. Ever since, I have joint and muscle pain, migraine and giddiness, Lupus brain fog and depression, sensitivity to the sun and butterfly rash on my face, gastric and bloatedness, and chest pains. I also developed anaemia and asthma over the years. I've experienced inflammation of my kidney, ribcage and my heart lining. Due to the immunosuppression medication for Lupus, my immune system is often weakened and I fall sick frequently suffered various bacterial infection and chickpox virus acting up as Shingles. I tried not to get pregnant. However, miraculously in May 2019 I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant. I had Mixed feelings of course. Me and my husband are happy that we will have a Baby Girl soon in Jan 2020. I just want share my feelings as I'm feeling very overwhelmed right now. It's been very challenging. I had two episodes of painful Shingles while I'm pregnant. One in July and another in August. Two days ago I was warded for asthma attack. After two months pregnant, my employer asked me to resign as they felt I will have tough pregnancy. I was angry at my employer for asking me to resign unfairly but at the same time I'm frustrated with my health because it seems that they are right. I'm tired of dealing with Lupus and could hardly focus on my pregnancy and my baby. I have not have the time to prepare for my baby's arrival or do any pre-natal bonding activities. I'm just busy patching myself up. Time passes in a flash and all I can see is a growing tummy and the growing worry if I hae the strength for delivery. This bittersweet emotions just driving me nuts. The risks and odds are against me but my miracle baby chose this Lupus-wrecked body to grow in. I just hope my baby will deliver safely into this world. I have no words to describe how weak my body feels now.
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