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Postpartum depression or overwhelmed?

I'm struggling with postpartum feelings, and my friends and mom said I might be experiencing postpartum depression. I often feel agitated with my husband's behavior and my mother-in-law. Living with my mom, I feel she and my siblings handle the baby with more care. When I visit my mother-in-law's house, it's very loud, and they often carry my baby around, which sometimes startles her. They take her into a room, claiming it's cooler there with the air conditioning, but it feels too much to me ā€œkidnappingā€ my child away and when my baby cry they didnā€™t pass my baby to me instead trying to soothe her. Iā€™ve expressed my discomfort to my husband, but he insists it's okay since they only see our baby once a week. He thinks I'm being unfair because my family has more time with her. At home, they treat the baby like a toy, passing her around like itā€™s nothing. I often dread going there and worry about how our baby is being handled. Since my postpartum period began over a month ago, I feel like my husband hasnā€™t been very supportive. He spends a lot of time playing games and only changes diapers when I ask him to, and even then, he sometimes delays. Heā€™s seen me struggling with back pain and me complaining how it hurts but has criticized me for not using a binder, which adds to my frustration. Whenever I express to him that Iā€™m tired and heā€™s not helping, he said ā€œare you complaining? If youā€™re tired I can takecare of babyā€ Additionally, he often makes our baby cry, and instead of comforting her, he tells her to "use her words" instead of crying. My sister-in-law does the same. Itā€™s frustrating to hear that when our baby is just a newborn and cannot communicate that way. When she cries, they playfully scold her rather than trying to soothe her right away. Sometimes I feel like telling him to leave me and my baby. I can survive being a single mother. Is this what postpartum depression are like, or am I just overreacting to everything?

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