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Hi.. I’m the mother of a pair of twin 2y7m.. raising them after they know how to play, how to run, how to fight is really test my impatience.. when they have good mood, they will behave, we will happy and smile.. but when they’re not behave and we’re tired of that, it’s can make us stressed.. sometimes I do that too.. I shouted and beat them.. they will scared and cry.. they follow what I want.. but what I can say is, they do that because they just scared of us.. not because they respect.. my husband always remind me to relax, calm down.. when god gave kids, that’s mean he knows that we deserve and we can do it.. after I mad at them, they will avoid me, go to my husband.. it’s really make me panic.. I don’t want them to be psychotic.. every day they must study and must! I’m too strict with them.. I can see that they always stress with me but happy with thier father.. my husband asked me to change my attitude.. need to be more relax, give and take to them.. “what do u expect from them if they just 2y7m? U want them to be matured like u? Behave and make up every single inch of this house? U expect them to eat properly like u when they have friend (twin/subling) to play and laugh? U want them to be smart kids by knows all the abc but they don’t know how to socialise, how to respect? If u want them to respect u, u need to respect them first.. give some chance.. give time , if they don’t want to listen, take a deep breath a think.. change your skill.. use all of your skills as a mother.. if they don’t want to shower, change your skill.. ask them to shower u.. shower together with them.. if they don’t want to eat properly, ask them to feed u, eat together.. if they don’t want to study, u the who should start first.. read your own book!” - my husband