My wife is very hot tempered and she like to hit me when she lose her temper. She will dig her fingernail into my skin and sometimes she will slam my head against the wall. I don't want to hit her back. I love her. I believe she loves me too. How can I calm her down. And stop her from abusing me like this.

The one that need help from counselor is your wife where she had an issue with her temper. Obviously she doesn’t respect you when she slammed your head to the wall. So get consultation faster. Or else, it sounds cruel but the last solution is divorce. I know it’s not good to say this but tbh I can’t live with temper person. I have my own limit too!! Will never respect people who belittle me..