Why must I always be the one to be so busy feeding my 8 months old at the dinner table while my husband can sit back n relax n enjoy his meal ? Even after he has finished eating , he never offer to help me .. leaving me busy feeding n handling the LO n with my plate of food unfinished . I tried to take a few spoonfuls of food as I feed my LO but u know how difficult it is to concentrate on eating n at the end of it , I often lost my appetite or no mood to eat. Why can't my Husband jus help me out after his meal ? Why can't he b the one to offer to start to offer to feed our LO ? I have never heard him offer that . I actually don't mind to start feeding my LO but at least after his meal , he can offer his help , right ? Instead of relaxing in his seat n sipping his coffee. N another thing I'm v fed up is , he would purposely sit Away from my LO .. so he don't need to help out .. happen every single time ! I did tell him I would prefer that LO sit in between us but the next time , he would sit away again! I'm so upset! Am I being petty ? What is your meal time situation with hubby when baby is too young to self feed?

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Ok for men, I realised you have to instruct them what to do exactly and if they don’t do it, they must know the consequences . This was what my husband told me when we had this issue too in the beginning. Most parents will have this “job division” issue when settling into the parenting role. Their brains are wired differently from females, so while we are busy with baby and stressing our mind on why the man is just sitting there, his mind is just a blank. He probably thinks you are doing well on your own. They are also used to seeing women taking the role of the main caregiver so they feel that they don’t need to do anything until wife gives instructions. Do have a talk with him, let him know you need him to take over at meal times , if not no happy wife, no happy life 😬

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Home Just Mums why must i always busy feeding 8 months old dinner table while husband sit back n relax n enjoy meal after has finished eating never offer help leaving busy feeding n handling lo n with plate food unfinished i tired take few spoonfuls food i feed lo but know how difficult concentrate eating n end i often lost appetite mood eat why t husband jus help out after meal why t b offer start offer feed lo i have never heard him offer th