When i get to see my inlaws in our house i feel so uncomfortable, i have that strange heavy feeling to them.

I think it happens because you are not having a bond with them or do not get along too well. You guys probably maintain a distance in your relationship. I think that till the time this wall is not broken, the relationships remain superfluous. We need to be real people in front of each other and then only bonding happens. And compromise is the key, as there would be many things they wouldn't like about you and visa versa. So, you people will have to ignore all those things and remember good things about each other to accept each other. It is easy said then done, but eventually things do fall in place if we keep our hearts open.