When I just found out that I’m pregnant my hubby actually asked if she can help us to clean a lil bit here and there at our place during confinement, which he will also order confinement tingkat for his mum and myself so that she don’t have to cook (she can’t cook either), she said OK NO PROBLEM. A week later she told us she changed her mind because she doesn’t wanna have any conflict with me which is totally fine.
She did not show any interest or show concern to me during my 9 months of pregnancy which I think it’s fine so Long she don’t give any problem.
She told my hubby her coach purse is in bad condition and I took it as a hint to buy her a new LV wallet (when I’m not even working so no income) and then she told me that she doesn’t like the design. Which reminds me that I ever bought her a LV bag for her birthday and she also complain that the bag strap is too painful for her to carry.
After I gave birth the very first day discharge from hospital, we went back to my in laws place to have lunch with them. And for the next one week, MIL has been visiting our place to see baby which I felt annoyed at that point because I’m still recovering and needing to latch my baby from time to time or skin to skin. She have not been very helpful with changing the diaper etc. So basically she just want to carry baby when baby is ok but once baby cry she will pass it back to me, or even if baby need to change diaper she will ask me to do it. Which I take it because it’s my own baby anyway.
Moving on.
For past 2 months she’s constantly falling sick on and off (cough and flu).
So each time my hubby called to check if she’s feeling better, she will say act very weak and crave for my husbands attention, care and concern. I even drop her texts to tell her to drink more water, get well soon etc. Then my hubby will say if she’s not getting any better maybe we will go home another day to visit as baby is still young & baby’s immune system is weak which then she will reply “nevermind you can come la I will just stay in the room, let daddy and the rest play with baby” or either she will reply “Oh no la now my cough and flu much better”. But believe it or not when we go back to visit, she’s stil coughing badly.
My baby is about 2 months + now, every single day I have been sending pictures of my baby to our family group chat to cheer her up. Sometimes she will even call me a few times to ask me to send MORE pictures and videos which can be annoying at times because I’m a stay at home mom with no helper and nanny so I have to do all chores by myself.
We have been going back to visit them 3-4 times a week. Which I think can be very tiring for me because each time we go back to visit for 5-6 hours then when I reach home I have to rush to shower baby, feed baby, then keep my laundry, shower, etc.
During CNY eve dinner one of my hubby relative commented that I’m very good as I can handle my baby and do everything by myself, must be very hard on me then my MIL cut into our conversation and say that HER SON ALSO DID ALOT OK? Also, some of hubby relatives commented that my baby look more like me then she will then say “NO LAH LOOK MORE LIKE MY SON”.
Sometimes I just feel that she doesn’t acknowledge my hardwork and non stop praising her son.
I’m just feeling so exhausted with all this.